Imagine A World...Where "Gay" is "Straight" and "Straight" is "Gay"

AND MY NAME IS SONNY J AND WE HAVE REACHED THE END OF THE SEMESTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I HAVE ONE.....last final blog post for you and some other news about my blog in general!

Let's start off with the news about the blog, so as many of you may (or may not know) I did this blog for a class in school! It was so much fun doing it! Now, the question is "will this blog cease to exist?"

The answer to that is "YES!" BUT, do not fear because I'm going to morph this blog into my web show (The SonnyJ Experience) and I will continue to my spiels about LGBT topics and hootnanny's and what not's.  The blog will remain active until the new academic year (July 1st), so if you have people you want to show my blog to....DO IT BEFORE THEN! :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :)

NOW! With that being said, Imagine a world where being straight is gay, but being gay is straight! It'd be pretty weird right, well I found a short film that was uploaded to UpWorthy from Youtube and it was that exact scenario. I'll post the video below so that you can watch it (if you haven't already seen it), the video is actually a anti-bullying video, but to me it makes more sense. Bear with me here.

I can't really explain it, but maybe if you watch the video then you'll see. To me it showed that people get ridiculous when it comes to the LGBT subject, and....okay, see it makes sense in my head. Sometimes I wish I could just take my brain out and put it inside of you guys heads! Watch the video and you shall see!



I leave you with this question, what if the world were like this? What would you do? Let me know what you think!

 Peace and Blessings,

 SonnyJ

Lesbian Stages Anti-Gay Hate Crime -_-

SonnyJ here,

I decided to put a terrifying twist on today's article, because IT UPSET ME.  I was on the Huffington Post's Gay Voices reading about a lesbian who had staged her own hate crime!!!!

Like, the LGBT community already has enough issues with just trying to get equal rights and this hoe is NOT making us look any better than we already do! (Because as you know....us LGBT people are FAB-U-LOUS HAHA)

I'm still trying to figure out what would promote someone, who already knows of the struggles that LGBT people go through, to stage their own hate crime. What was she trying to prove? I mean if you read the article, then you will see that she actually played this up to the TEE! She's only going to jail because she lied to investigators, and she's only going to jail for a week. I would've locked her up in seclusion for about 3 weeks.

This whole thing makes me upset because, this is just making the LGBT community look bad in a way. There are so many people out there who are actually victims of hate crime and then this girl wants to stage her own hate crime. Girl, this isn't Broadway, you don't get your own stage and actors. Shut it down.

So my question for you is: Would you ever go out of your way to make people believe something even though it wasn't true? You might be thinking "isn't that called lying?" Yes and no. What she did was just make others look bad.

With that being said,

Peace and Blessings.

Father Sets Fire to HIV-Positive Son

SonnyJ here all,

I was reading an article on the Huffington Post's Gay Voices and it spoke about a father who set his son (who was HIV-Positive) on fire.


Yes, you heard me....He set his son....no wait let me reiterate that with big bold underlined letters.......HE SET HIS SON ON FIRE! What kind of fuckery is this?!

Excuse my language, but it had to be said! This angered me. I've never heard a story such as this before. It's already bad enough that some LGBT teens don't get accepted by their peers, but for them not to be accept by their parents is just unacceptable.  

What promotes a parent to want to do this to their child? Who in their right man as will to want to set someone on fire? Obviously, you're not a good parent if you want to do this because your child is sick, or gay/lesbian. 

BUT something I found interesting when I was searching the internet, and I'm not sure if it's available for teens outside the US (which is where this story happened), but here in the US, there is a program that exist called the National Safe Place 

and it's a youth runaway prevention program, and you're probably thinking "well...how does this pertain to LGBT teens", because a lot of LGBT teens will runaway from their homes if they are not accepted by their parents.  

These safe places are places where these teens can go, and feel safe and get help. It's not just for LGBT teens either, it's for any teen whose in a crisis situation at home.

I wish their was a program like this for this kid who get set on fire,  because it shouldn't have happened...I haven't seen an update yet on this story, but I'm searching for one. 

Hopefully, something was done and justice will be served.

With that being said, I hope every is having an awesome Thursday morning! I know I am!

Peace and Blessings    


 

Justice Has Been Served, Let's Keep Fighting

Goooooood morning everyone!

SonnyJ here,

Sorry I didn't get a blog post out last night (hopefully you weren't waiting up for one!) I have great news! Last week I posted about a student who had called me the F word, and a homo and being extremely ignorant and what not.

WELL! I spoke with the Office of Student Affairs here on campus and they gave me a few options and I'm quite excited with the option that they have given me.

Justice has been served. They gave me and the student (more importantly for him) a non-contact order and if the students breaks this contract then it's immediate suspension.  Now, they told me that it has to apply to me, but i specifically said "I don't want to see the student, so you have my word that I'm not going to break the contract"

While all of this was going on, it got me to thinking.  You have to fight for what you want, and you can't give up or else nothing will get done.  For a lot of us, we are fighting for equality and if we want to see a change then we're going to have to keep pushing and fighting until we win.  The picture below goes WELL with this, because in this picture all of these involved a fight and they overcame because no one gave up.

See all of these in the picture above, involved dedicated people fighting for what is right. They succeeded and I know that if we continue then we will win too.

What are your thoughts? Has there ever been a time in your life that you wanted something to change and you fought for it and it changed? Or did it not change?  How did you feel about it?

With all this in mind, have a great Monday!

Watch Your Mouth!

Hey blog buddies,

SonnyJ again,

I want to veer off the path that I was taking before last week, where I was talking about coming out. I want to talk about things you say to people. Now, anybody who is a somebody knows that I am gay on this campus. It's not a secret. Most people don't have a problem with it.

However, something happened this week that has literally made me feel as though if I am in high school.  I won't share all the details because none of y'all need to know them right now; but what I will say is that, it involved me and another student and a twitter page.  While I had nothing to do with the creation of this Twitter page. Everyone seems to think that I did it. (For the record-I did not) Anyway, this student felt the need to confront me with the use of words that could have gotten him killed.

People, people, people, I cannot stress enough how important it is, that you watch what you say to certain people. Generally, I don't care what people say to me, or about me, I'll brush it off or throw it right back at you. For me, I'm different, and nothing like anybody else that you've ever met. The things you say to me I always keep them with me and remember that (I'm kinda like an elephant...I don't forget haha)

The things that you say to people can lead to YOU getting hurt, or for that person going to hurt themselves. In the case of me, you can call me gay, you can call me a queer, you can call me whatever you want, but, you cannot call me the F word (no it's definitely not f*ck, the other F word) that's something which I am not, and quite frankly I'm not sure how that word came to mean what most people who are afraid of us gay people use it for!

Anyway, because of the actions of this one student, I decided that I'm not going to just sit around and let him threaten me and call me names. I'm going to do something about it. So I am, I've submitted two student conduct issue reports and hopefully something will be done; if nothing is done, then I will fight until something is.

My message for you to do: Don't let someone pull you down by calling you names and such, you better rise up and go tell someone, and keep bothering someone until something gets done. I know for a fact that nothing was done to the people who did this kind of thing to me in high school.

With that being said,

Peace and Blessings, Sonny J

Radio Host Tells Caller to Leave Gay Friendly Church

Hey all, Sonny J here FINALLY with another blog post. I hope everyone had a GREAT Easter. I know that I did!

Anyway, if you haven't already looked, then my guest blog post is up! However, the video that was made for the guest post didn't render correctly SO I will have to call up my friend and have her do it, HOWEVER. I have something better today. It's a post about a Radio Host who tells a caller that she should leave the gay friendly church that she is currently attending. It made me mad, if the kids want to be gay, then so what? If they want to be straight? so what. Let them decide what they want to be.


Check out the video below!

  

Guest Post (La-A Coming Out)

Hello everyone,

SonnyJ here,

So I was suppose to have a guest post here by my friend La-a (pronounced Ladasha), but the video I took of La-A is corrupt on my camera and I can't get it off so she told me to just type her story in.

"Hi, my name is La-A (pronounced La dash ah).  I was born on August 23^rd 1989 birthed by my parants Monika and Darien Brodenski.  You might think that I am a man…however you would be sadly mistaken if you think so.

I have a story that I need to share, I haven’t told many people this story, because when I tell people this story they always laugh at me…like the people did in middle school.

Those were terrible times, but then again….those times were simpler.

It all started back in 2002 when I was in 7^th grade, and I realized that I was not like the other children on the playground. One day during gym class, it was me and my bestfriend Nicole and the entire class was outside on the track….walking…..in the heat……it was about 85 outside…..my weave was coming out…….it was tragic….i looked a hot mess.

ANYWAY THAT’S NOT THE POINT, we were walking around the track, when we just so happened to stumble upon a group of girls that I just DID NOT LIKE….It was Latisha (pronounced la tee sha) and the Naps (that’s what her crew was called)

Anyway, Latisha and the Naps decided they wanted to start beef, and clearly they didn’t know who they were talking to….The tripped me while I was walking…and I fell…and they laughed…..then they said to me “oooh girl…aren’t you use to be being on your knees” and it angered me so much…it boiled inside of me….and then I said “I AM A LESBIAN!!!!!!!!!!!” I was terrified….it was silent all around me…..even Nicole stopped talking because she was shocked that I had mentioned it to everybody.

I tried to take it back, but then I realized….it was too late. Latisha and the Naps rose up and………………. CELEBRATED because I had finally came out….then they let me join their club. Naps Gone Wild…..and that’s the end of that story."

The video was much more entertaining than reading it. I may have to call upon her again and re-record the guest post. For now. Just read and imagine a black girl with blonde hair  telling this story!

With that being said

Peace and Blessings, SonnyJ

Marriage Equality

Hello everyone one!

SonnyJ here and I'm going to briefly talk about what has been going on lately in the news.  Now, because of my daily schedule I'm actually behind on everything, but the one thing that I do know is that everything going on in the news has to do with marriage equality.

I don't like to talk about this subject much because it angers me to hear close minded individuals speak.

I absolutely LOVE both of these pictures. The thing about marriage equality is it's close minded individuals who are living in the past who can't accept the fact that some people are just different! (See why I don't like to speak about it...let's continue the rant shall we?)

Here's how I see it...I don't want it to be called something different, I don't want to have to have my own group and be singled out. NO PEOPLE! This is not okay! I'm no different from you, Bobby, Joe, and/or Sue (Sue is a lesbian by the way) (don't ask me who Sue, Bobby and/or Joe is either).

What really burns my butter about the entire situation (and I'm not exactly sure what's being said in the news considering the fact I haven't seen a TV in a few weeks, i'm speaking more about equality in general and marriage equality) there are people who will sit there and claim that somewhere in the Bible  it says being gay and all is a sin. SHOW ME THE VERSE, SHOW ME HOE!!

OKAY, LETS CUT TO THE CHASE, WHY SHOULD YOU BE ALLOWED RIGHTS AND I NOT BE? DOES THAT SEEM FAIR? NO IT DOES NOT. I WILL STOP AT NOTHING UNTIL EVERYONE IN THIS COUNTRY OF THE SO CALLED "LAND OF THE FREE" HAS THE SAME RIGHTS AS HIS NEXT DOOR NEIGHBOR.

And now I will get off my soapbox, and I want everyone to have a great Easter, and be on the look out for my Guest Post!

It's a coming out story from a friend of mine.

With that being said, Peace and Blessings,

SonnyJ

Do You Have A Story You Need To Share?

Hey everyone,

Sonny J here, now today's post is going to be more directed towards those few individuals who have something that they need to share. It may not be their time now, but eventually you have to share it because keeping things locked inside for too long can damage you.  So, below is a video of my story, it's something that I've never openly shared, but I decided to write it down and share it through a video.


This is my coming out story, and I've never officially came out, but the next few blog post will be about coming out, and coming to terms with yourself. So check out my video below!

 

With all of this being said, until next time, Peace and Blessings

Equality House Being Built Across from WBC

Sonny J here,

I have another post about the Westboro Baptist Church! My last post was about how the founder of the Westboro Baptist Church (Now annotated as WBC) could possibly be gay. This time I was scanning the Huffington Post's Gay Voices when ANOTHER article popped up and caught my attention

There was a gentleman who bought a house directly across from the street from the WBC, and he's in the process of painting the outside of the house the colors that are the Gay Pride flag. See the picture below.

Now to be honest, even though the author of the article said that the reason the guy, whose name is Aaron, is doing this not in retaliation of the anti-gay church's belief's. If this was me, I would've have totally painted the house in NEON gay pride colors, and then put up a huge gay pride flag, blast some Katy Perry and go do a funny dance in the front yard EVERY time the church had a service.

If I didn't do that, I would probably just sit on the front porch rocking back and forth reading my HOMOSEXUAL BOOKS.  I'm not bitter people...I promise.....Okay well maybe I'm a little bitter

Anyway, check out the article for yourself, and I have a question for you, How do you think this house popping up across the street from the WBC will affect them?

Peace and Blessings,

SonnyJ

Founder of Westboro Baptist Church...Gay!?

Hello everybody,

SonnyJ here,

Today I won't have a vLog because my camera battery died and the one on my computer isn't good enough to actually make a video with (well unless I'm in good lighting)

Anyways, I was reading an article on Gay Voices, and it was about how the founder of the Westboro Baptist Church may be gay.   As we all know, the Westboro Baptist Church is in my eyes not even a church, but a hate group that consist of about 40 people. They will show up at funerals for soldiers, and gay rallies attempting to promote they hate-filled ways amongst everyone.

They're really known for the anti-gay movement, and that's one of the things that burns my butter when I speak about the Westboro Baptist Church. I'm still trying to figure out why they are still even here, you'd think that Russia or China would've aimed a missile at them and blown them off the map!


Now, you'll have to go read the article for yourself, but I just wanted to talk about the fact that how true this may (or may not) be! As you may have heard when you were going through high school "people who hate gays, probably are gay" and then you shrugged it off but a few years after you graduate high school that one kid who hated you (if you're gay) came out of the closet. Yeah! I've seen it happen.

I can't explain it, but I mean, as kids we experiment. I know that I did, but I knew way before I started experimented that I was gay. (although I didn't know what it was called)


There's not really a message here,  I was just really surprised when I read this article. I never have thought this yet about the Westboro Baptist Church founder....HEY! Maybe all the people in the congregation are gay!!!! 0_o

You never know......but for now, I must end and let you be the judge of it all. I'll leave you with a question, What's your take on the article about the founder of the Westboro Church possibly being gay?

Peace and Blessings,

Sonny J

Bullying

Hey Everyone! Sonny J Here, and this time I'm bringing you another blog post, but this one is related to the bullying, and I actually have spoken many times on bullying one of my past blog post was actually about how words do hurt and in the clip below I talk more in depth about it.

It's another vLog and it applies to everyone. I use it specifically here because those in the LGBT community including myself are being or have been bullied at some point in their life because of who we are.

 You best believe that I do NOT approve!

With that being said,

Peace and Blessings from SonnyJ

The video below is Rated PG 13 for Mild to extreme uses of language.

8 Year Old Boy Scout Writes A Letter

Hey everyone,

Sonny J here, decided to make another vLog post. I know it seems kind of all over the place but in my head it makes sense. It was late when I was making this video, but all I'm saying in the video is that I want to know you're views on the story. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/02/26/frank-cub-scout-gay-letter-boy-scouts-of-america_n_2765781.html?utm_hp_ref=gay-voices

Coming To Terms With Yourself

Rainbow For Your Thoughts: Gay Church for Gay Kids

Hey everyone,

I'm back! With a rainbow for your thoughts!

What if there was a gay church for gay kids?

 

 I've heard of such churches being around for gays only, but I've never seen one and quite frankly I'm not sure what one looks like.

I was reading an article on the Huffington Post's Gay Voices page, which is a page designed specifically for LGBT people. The name of the article was called What if Gay Kids had a Church that Love Them?

Check it out for yourself! A quick summary of the article is that Derek Penwell the author received an email from a boy named Benjamin who had emailed to say that he liked seeing a church that cared for its kids even the ones that were gay.

The first church I was at, and had been a member of for all my life told me that I couldn't play there on Sunday mornings because I was gay (Rude right?!) It was like I had been exiled. Every time I walked into the front door the pastor was (and still does) try to turn me straight (or "back to God" as he calls it).

Where are these churches for gay kids? I mean there needs to be at least ONE place where we all are accepted. Now I know for me, I'm happy at school because here, most people don't care what I am (and for some odd reason to all the straight males on campus, I'm referred to as "the cool gay kid")

So I ask you.....What if there was a gay church for gay kids? It could be a safe place for the gay kids that parents kick out on the street. Read the article and tell me what you think in the comments below.


Peace and blessings, SonnyJ

Creating A New You

"Sometimes people tell you
Be like me to fit in
Do you know your identity is not in them?"

--Find Yourself in You; Everlife

Welcome back to my blog again!

So on Sunday night I posted a blog about how fitting in can be hard. If you didn't read it then read it here. It actually can apply to anybody whose just had a hard time fitting it.



Now whether you are transitioning from high school to college, college to the real world or maybe you just want to reinvent yourself I'm going to help you do it.

The best times to do it are at the 'gateway years' (from high school to college for example) but if you're already past those points that's okay too! This will still help you in the process of reinventing yourself.

The first thing that you're going to want to do is ask yourself, "Who am I right now?"  That's the first step, because if you don't know who you are now then you can't decide on who you want to be later!

 I was quiet, insecure, I had low self esteem, didn't have many friends, I was slightly depressed. The list goes on and on and on. I knew who i was, and quite frankly I didn't like what I saw.

The second thing you're going to want to do is after you ask yourself that is ask yourself "what do I want to change about myself?"

 For me I wanted to change the fact that I was quiet, that lead to me getting "run over" by people. When people would call me out for being gay, I would always get offended by it, I wanted to become mentally strongers

The third things is to make those changes gradually over time.

You're not going to be able to change everything you want about yourself in 30 seconds. You have to do it slowly. 


Now, I can't do this for you. It's something you have to do for yourself. The way that I listed above is probably the easiest way to do it. If you viewed the link above then you'll remember the entire song is talking about finding yourself in you. Look inside, and see the person you want to be, then slowly change things about yourself so that you become that person.

With that being said, Peace and Blessings

Sonny J  

I Lost My Best Friend

Hey blog buddies,

I won't have a new blog post today relevant to my blog. I just wanted to let you all know what's going on.

I know the title of this post says "Lost my best friend" and I did...My horse, she was my best friend. I loved her and would ride her every day after school (when I was in high school). We walked to nowhere and I would talk to her and vent to her. Nobody else would listen or they got tired of listening to me.


I guess actually I will have a new blog post, because we all need a friend, one friend that we can go to and talk to. I've lost the friend that I went to and talked too. I don't really like to just talk about my feelings to anyone, not everyone cares; some people are just nosy.

I guess what I am trying to say is, if you are one of those people straight, gay, lesbian or bisexual. There are things that you're keeping inside of you, and I know for a fact that if you let them sit there, they will only build up and cause you pain, from there it spirals out of control.

Don't do that. Everyone needs to vent. Find a person that you can trust, don't just pick ANYBODY, because as I said before, not everybody cares, some people are just nosy.


Please don't choose me, I do care I promise I do, but I'm not the one to give advice if you're having a real problem.


With that being said, I will have a blog post up for everyone next week. I'm praying I'm in a better condition.

Until then, Peace and Blessings


Sonny J   

Fitting In Can Be Hard

"You don't know how it feels
To be outside the crowd
You don't know what it's like
To be left out
And you don't know how it feels
To be your own best friend on the outside looking in." 

--Jordan Pruitt; Outside Looking In

 

Hello again everyone, it hasn't been long but it's already time for another post!

Well, to start off with I hope everyone is having an excellent day! 

Anyway, since this blog is geared towards LGBT college students I will talk about something that I know has always been a issue with those who may be in the closet or who have recently came out the closet, or those who know someone who is in the midst of this battle. Actually...This can apply to just about anyone!

FITTING IN

I've never fit in, no matter where I go or what I do. I've never fit in. I've always been different and I've come to accept that. I have a few tips for those coming into college who might be afraid that they won't fit in.


Now that I've been here in college for a year and a half there is to me only ONE thing you need to know

BE YOURSELF.

Yes, you heard me right. BE YOURSELF, in high school I know that I changed to make other people happy. My high school wasn't really accepting of me being gay. So I never showed it.

Being yourself is a guaranteed way to get rid of 95% of the people that you DON'T want in your life.

Now you may ask me "But Sonny, how do you know that will work for me, I'm weird and smell like wet dog."

Well first, gross, there is a reason that you smell like wet dog...You need to get that checked out by a doctor. Second, I'm weird also, and I recently read a quote that some say was written by Dr. Seuss and it reads, "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."

Those are words never truer. Don't worry about what people will think about you when you get to college. Nobody cares you're gay, straight, bisexual, or lesbian. Nobody will care if you want to dye your hair blue with hot pink highlights! I go everyday not really worrying about what people think of me.

When I got here the first thing I thought was, "dang I'm gonna have to relive high school ALL over again, the football team is gonna end up using me as their ball" Nope. That didn't happen at all. In fact, I'm cool with many people on the football team. In fact, around campus I'm known as "the cool gay guy". I didn't do anything but be myself. 

So, what I want you do today is BE YOURSELF. Don't be afraid to open up and speak your mind. You'll find that you might have more in common with people than you realize.


With that being said, Peace and Blessings

Sonny J