8 Year Old Boy Scout Writes A Letter

Hey everyone,

Sonny J here, decided to make another vLog post. I know it seems kind of all over the place but in my head it makes sense. It was late when I was making this video, but all I'm saying in the video is that I want to know you're views on the story. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/02/26/frank-cub-scout-gay-letter-boy-scouts-of-america_n_2765781.html?utm_hp_ref=gay-voices

Coming To Terms With Yourself

Rainbow For Your Thoughts: Gay Church for Gay Kids

Hey everyone,

I'm back! With a rainbow for your thoughts!

What if there was a gay church for gay kids?

 

 I've heard of such churches being around for gays only, but I've never seen one and quite frankly I'm not sure what one looks like.

I was reading an article on the Huffington Post's Gay Voices page, which is a page designed specifically for LGBT people. The name of the article was called What if Gay Kids had a Church that Love Them?

Check it out for yourself! A quick summary of the article is that Derek Penwell the author received an email from a boy named Benjamin who had emailed to say that he liked seeing a church that cared for its kids even the ones that were gay.

The first church I was at, and had been a member of for all my life told me that I couldn't play there on Sunday mornings because I was gay (Rude right?!) It was like I had been exiled. Every time I walked into the front door the pastor was (and still does) try to turn me straight (or "back to God" as he calls it).

Where are these churches for gay kids? I mean there needs to be at least ONE place where we all are accepted. Now I know for me, I'm happy at school because here, most people don't care what I am (and for some odd reason to all the straight males on campus, I'm referred to as "the cool gay kid")

So I ask you.....What if there was a gay church for gay kids? It could be a safe place for the gay kids that parents kick out on the street. Read the article and tell me what you think in the comments below.


Peace and blessings, SonnyJ

Creating A New You

"Sometimes people tell you
Be like me to fit in
Do you know your identity is not in them?"

--Find Yourself in You; Everlife

Welcome back to my blog again!

So on Sunday night I posted a blog about how fitting in can be hard. If you didn't read it then read it here. It actually can apply to anybody whose just had a hard time fitting it.



Now whether you are transitioning from high school to college, college to the real world or maybe you just want to reinvent yourself I'm going to help you do it.

The best times to do it are at the 'gateway years' (from high school to college for example) but if you're already past those points that's okay too! This will still help you in the process of reinventing yourself.

The first thing that you're going to want to do is ask yourself, "Who am I right now?"  That's the first step, because if you don't know who you are now then you can't decide on who you want to be later!

 I was quiet, insecure, I had low self esteem, didn't have many friends, I was slightly depressed. The list goes on and on and on. I knew who i was, and quite frankly I didn't like what I saw.

The second thing you're going to want to do is after you ask yourself that is ask yourself "what do I want to change about myself?"

 For me I wanted to change the fact that I was quiet, that lead to me getting "run over" by people. When people would call me out for being gay, I would always get offended by it, I wanted to become mentally strongers

The third things is to make those changes gradually over time.

You're not going to be able to change everything you want about yourself in 30 seconds. You have to do it slowly. 


Now, I can't do this for you. It's something you have to do for yourself. The way that I listed above is probably the easiest way to do it. If you viewed the link above then you'll remember the entire song is talking about finding yourself in you. Look inside, and see the person you want to be, then slowly change things about yourself so that you become that person.

With that being said, Peace and Blessings

Sonny J  

I Lost My Best Friend

Hey blog buddies,

I won't have a new blog post today relevant to my blog. I just wanted to let you all know what's going on.

I know the title of this post says "Lost my best friend" and I did...My horse, she was my best friend. I loved her and would ride her every day after school (when I was in high school). We walked to nowhere and I would talk to her and vent to her. Nobody else would listen or they got tired of listening to me.


I guess actually I will have a new blog post, because we all need a friend, one friend that we can go to and talk to. I've lost the friend that I went to and talked too. I don't really like to just talk about my feelings to anyone, not everyone cares; some people are just nosy.

I guess what I am trying to say is, if you are one of those people straight, gay, lesbian or bisexual. There are things that you're keeping inside of you, and I know for a fact that if you let them sit there, they will only build up and cause you pain, from there it spirals out of control.

Don't do that. Everyone needs to vent. Find a person that you can trust, don't just pick ANYBODY, because as I said before, not everybody cares, some people are just nosy.


Please don't choose me, I do care I promise I do, but I'm not the one to give advice if you're having a real problem.


With that being said, I will have a blog post up for everyone next week. I'm praying I'm in a better condition.

Until then, Peace and Blessings


Sonny J   

Fitting In Can Be Hard

"You don't know how it feels
To be outside the crowd
You don't know what it's like
To be left out
And you don't know how it feels
To be your own best friend on the outside looking in." 

--Jordan Pruitt; Outside Looking In

 

Hello again everyone, it hasn't been long but it's already time for another post!

Well, to start off with I hope everyone is having an excellent day! 

Anyway, since this blog is geared towards LGBT college students I will talk about something that I know has always been a issue with those who may be in the closet or who have recently came out the closet, or those who know someone who is in the midst of this battle. Actually...This can apply to just about anyone!

FITTING IN

I've never fit in, no matter where I go or what I do. I've never fit in. I've always been different and I've come to accept that. I have a few tips for those coming into college who might be afraid that they won't fit in.


Now that I've been here in college for a year and a half there is to me only ONE thing you need to know

BE YOURSELF.

Yes, you heard me right. BE YOURSELF, in high school I know that I changed to make other people happy. My high school wasn't really accepting of me being gay. So I never showed it.

Being yourself is a guaranteed way to get rid of 95% of the people that you DON'T want in your life.

Now you may ask me "But Sonny, how do you know that will work for me, I'm weird and smell like wet dog."

Well first, gross, there is a reason that you smell like wet dog...You need to get that checked out by a doctor. Second, I'm weird also, and I recently read a quote that some say was written by Dr. Seuss and it reads, "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."

Those are words never truer. Don't worry about what people will think about you when you get to college. Nobody cares you're gay, straight, bisexual, or lesbian. Nobody will care if you want to dye your hair blue with hot pink highlights! I go everyday not really worrying about what people think of me.

When I got here the first thing I thought was, "dang I'm gonna have to relive high school ALL over again, the football team is gonna end up using me as their ball" Nope. That didn't happen at all. In fact, I'm cool with many people on the football team. In fact, around campus I'm known as "the cool gay guy". I didn't do anything but be myself. 

So, what I want you do today is BE YOURSELF. Don't be afraid to open up and speak your mind. You'll find that you might have more in common with people than you realize.


With that being said, Peace and Blessings

Sonny J