Fitting In Can Be Hard

"You don't know how it feels
To be outside the crowd
You don't know what it's like
To be left out
And you don't know how it feels
To be your own best friend on the outside looking in." 

--Jordan Pruitt; Outside Looking In

 

Hello again everyone, it hasn't been long but it's already time for another post!

Well, to start off with I hope everyone is having an excellent day! 

Anyway, since this blog is geared towards LGBT college students I will talk about something that I know has always been a issue with those who may be in the closet or who have recently came out the closet, or those who know someone who is in the midst of this battle. Actually...This can apply to just about anyone!

FITTING IN

I've never fit in, no matter where I go or what I do. I've never fit in. I've always been different and I've come to accept that. I have a few tips for those coming into college who might be afraid that they won't fit in.


Now that I've been here in college for a year and a half there is to me only ONE thing you need to know

BE YOURSELF.

Yes, you heard me right. BE YOURSELF, in high school I know that I changed to make other people happy. My high school wasn't really accepting of me being gay. So I never showed it.

Being yourself is a guaranteed way to get rid of 95% of the people that you DON'T want in your life.

Now you may ask me "But Sonny, how do you know that will work for me, I'm weird and smell like wet dog."

Well first, gross, there is a reason that you smell like wet dog...You need to get that checked out by a doctor. Second, I'm weird also, and I recently read a quote that some say was written by Dr. Seuss and it reads, "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."

Those are words never truer. Don't worry about what people will think about you when you get to college. Nobody cares you're gay, straight, bisexual, or lesbian. Nobody will care if you want to dye your hair blue with hot pink highlights! I go everyday not really worrying about what people think of me.

When I got here the first thing I thought was, "dang I'm gonna have to relive high school ALL over again, the football team is gonna end up using me as their ball" Nope. That didn't happen at all. In fact, I'm cool with many people on the football team. In fact, around campus I'm known as "the cool gay guy". I didn't do anything but be myself. 

So, what I want you do today is BE YOURSELF. Don't be afraid to open up and speak your mind. You'll find that you might have more in common with people than you realize.


With that being said, Peace and Blessings

Sonny J 

Words Do Hurt, So Choose Them Wisely

 

Hey everybody...

 

Sonny J here, and I'm back bringing you another post!

This actually happened today when I was sitting in one of the 24 hour computer labs working on homework. Me and a few of my friends were talking about life on the farm (not really...but we were talking about life) and a kid 4 computers down decides that he needed to put his two cents in.

That's fine with me, by all means join us, but then the conversation took a turn for the worse when he decided we were all "lame" and he used the phrase "you are all faggots."

My first words to him were "What did you just say?" I just wanted to make sure that I heard him correctly. He then decided to respond with "no offense" and he smiled about it.

No sir. No mam. No way, Jose (See I did Spanish there! Ha ha)

Citizens of the world, please be mindful of what you say to someone of the LGBT community, because there are a multitude of other words this gentleman could have said beside the 'F' word to express how he was feeling.  Not everyone has the same type of high self esteem and confidence such as me. It didn't hurt me, but had I not been 'out' already and maybe a little insecure about myself. It could have done a lot of damage.

Here is a link to a story about a kid named Jadin, he was recently taken off life support after attempting to commit suicide because he was bullied. It just goes to show that words DO hurt.

Well until my next blog post, peace and blessings blog buddies!

Sonny J